Tis the Season to be...well Tis the Season!

It's seven days until Christmas...and I'm feeling excited about spending time with family and friends.  I must admit,...I just love this time of year.  From Thanksgiving to New Years...I am truly in spirit.  I love the smell of pine and cinnamon that lingers in the air.   To me, the atmosphere feels like I'm surrounded by a big hug! (I know, it's corny right...but true!)

Now on the flip-side, people seem stressed beyond belief. 

The malls are flooded with weary shoppers looking for the best deal...all the while fighting over the size they need with the next weary shopper that has a better reach and more aggressive elbowing tactics!  (Kobe and Lebron look out...your competition is in the nearest mall!) 

The parking lot is nothing short of mayhem.  Picture this:  Car #1 is on one end....Car #2 is on the other end...both are racing for the same spot...both are playing chicken...who loses...who loses....the poor elderly lady with her shopping cart that has to leap out of the way to avoid being sandwiched by a head-on crash!  Come on people, is anything that serious?  SMH and wondering why people make Target's parking lot their own personal Speedway.

As "Santa" prepares to give the kids everything their heart desires...the Christmas lists keep growing and growing....  Dear Santa:  I would like (this long a$$ list of things that I can't even spell!) I mean really, who needs a Wii, an Ipod, a laptop, a PS (whatever the latest is)...a plasma TV...a new cell phone...and much more...  I ask, when is this "fortunate" child going to have time to sit down and do some homework?  And parents, if your child is averaging D's in class...it's probably a sign that all they need for Christmas is a book and a tutor!  But hey...that's just me!

Tis the season for giving.  So I wonder, how is it that people leave the stores with two carts...or fifteen bags, but don't have a quarter to put in the Salvation Army collection can?  Note:  You saw Santa or the helper outside when you went in the store.  So, did you not think to save a few cents to donate to those less fortunate...?  Does that mean you went in and spent every dime...all in the name of Christmas gifts?

Okay, lastly....something to keep in mind...just because it looks nice to you doesn't mean it looks nice to others.  Just because you can put a thousand green lights on the outside of your house doesn't mean that your neighbors want to look at the green monstrosity.  For those of you that have those large inflatables that only stay inflated for about thirty minutes...remember less is more!  And making your child happy...has your yard looking a mess!

So...Tis the Season ...to be a basketball player...a race-car driver....greedy little kid, ....a tutor in need of a job...nickel-ing and dime-ing / scrooge...and a decoration fashionista (NOT!).  Let's get back to what is important...love, joy, celebration, and giving....!  Now is the time to reevaluate your holiday disposition. 

Happy Holidays!  May the joys of the season fill your heart and home.


And that's straight out of The She-Spot!

Wanted: A guy with some damn sense!

Is it just me...or has the dating scene gotten to be very lame?  The single girl (i.e., me) tries to keep an open mind and a positive attitude...but it becomes very difficult when she keeps running head on into insanity.  Ever go toe to toe with insanity....let's just say, it's a losing battle!

At any rate, I am at the point that I want to carry around my personal add in at least a 11 X 17 size... that says - Single Girl Seeking the following: 

Honest guy...unmarried guy and/or unattached guy (*Definition:  there is no one that thinks she's attached) ...and wait also (separated doesn't count).  Must be well-kept (bathes regularly,...irons his clothes...and has an eye for style...(Note:  he doesn't have to be fashion forward, but wearing 1980's fashions isn't quite as attractive on guys)... have steady job (*a steady job does not include working on getting your life together---what the hell does that mean!)...must have a car...MUST have a car that runs...not a car parked in your yard, or one that has been repo-ed...must know the difference between being confident and cocky...must be able to hold a conversation outside of text messages - LOL, LMAO, OMG and ROTFL do not count as conversation.  A girl likes to get a phone call every now and then... GEEZ!  And if he communicates via text messages ...NO SPELLING ERRORS!   No smokers!  Must have own space, no living with parents...and definitely don't think just because we went out on one date that you can move in with me!  (Leave your bag and your items at home...and Hell NO...you can not have a key to my house!) Once these initial prerequisites have been met...he must be nice, considerate, down to earth, compassionate and passionate!   And as my mom used to say..."can he have a bit of damn common-sense!"  Only qualified and serious applicants need apply!  Review of applications will begin immediately....

But maybe it's just me...maybe you haven't run into these guys...if not, you're lucky!  And I know some of you may say, I'm picky...but I don't think anything on this list should not be expected...most of it is just basic common courtesy and chivalry.  Whatever happened to being courted...? Hmmm....Single Girl Seeking Relief from Dating Chaos!

And that is straight out of The She-Spot!

D

By Chance ---

This entry is going to be a short one, because I am still processing and appreciating it.  However, I ask the question: When is the last time you had a chance encounter that moved you? 

As I get older, it is not very often that I meet people that affect me, perhaps I'm a bit jaded, but that's another story.  At any rate, I recently ran into someone that had an interesting perspective on life.  It was like running full speed into a breath of fresh air, like taking a deep breath on an ice cold morning.  After a couple hours of great conversation and laughter, I must admit...I was impacted.  I have contemplated the encounter for a couple of days now, and it's good to know that I can still find inspiration in the simple things in life, like an engaging conversation, a smile, a good cup of coffee, or a hearty meal.  On another note, it is slightly sad that inspiration doesn't come as often as one would like. 

So for me, this chance encounter reaffirmed something that I had just about forgotten.  The encounter made me remember the things that are important and made me take stock in the joys of life.  With that said, I have decided to live my life looking closely at the small things and enjoying the unforgettable moments in hopes that I can find a the slightest bit of joy.  I will open my eyes to see the beauty that exists in the midsts of life-long pandemonium. 

Lastly, I want to say thanks for the encounter...it was exactly what I needed!


This is the She-Spot ...

Feeling thankful for the small things....!

The Progressive Woman's Plight!

For a while, I have been pondering over an issue based on some recent conversations I have had. And of course, this rainy Sunday afternoon has made me incredibly contemplative today. So here’s a bit of context for the question I will ask you today. Recently, I have taken a look at the many women that remain single either single having never been married or single through divorce. Many, if not all of these women, are beautiful, smart, progressive, and just all around together women. In addition to being what I consider the full package, the majority of these women are overly-educated holding advanced degrees and well-paid in their careers. Now, of course there are many women that are not single with all of these attributes, but it seems like somewhat of a phenomenon in that these awesome women remain single.



Therefore, the question I want to explore today is whether a progressive woman has a harder time finding a mate...?


First, let me say that this article is in no way meant to slight other women that are not these career-minded and exceedingly educated women that I have described here, because my blog is written to uplift all women…or at least probe into the issues that all women face. But rather, this blog entry is one that just wants to delve into possible obstacles that prevent us all from finding that ideal mate.


Particularly, while many of the women that are career minded and have gone on to seek higher education because they have an ideal career that they would like to pursue, there are others of us that have gone on to pursue higher education in an effort to have increased income and to see career growth. And many women in these situations continue to pursue greater opportunities while they await the arrival of Mr. Right. Now of course, this is not 40’s or 50’s, and most women can fend for themselves (in most aspects). So, it’s not about waiting on Mr. Right to carry her away from the life that she’s living. But rather, I have the belief that there is a special person out there for everyone.


However, once a woman has reached a certain level, it becomes increasingly difficult to meet available men, for several reasons. First, men that are on the same level are often married or have chosen to remain single (LOL, the incessant player). And men that are on her level say that they want a woman with her credentials often spends much of his time trying to change who she is. And if a woman decides to date a man that may not make as much as she does or has not chosen her same path, she potentially faces other issues that deal with his feeling of inadequacy.


Truly, I am exploring the complexities of male / female interaction. I think we spend too much time tearing each other down rather than building each other up. We have been so programmed to think that men and women are from different spectrums (Mars and Venus) that we don’t take the time to understand how much we are alike and what we each need. The progressive woman, like all women, just wants to be loved and adored. She wants to feel like she can be awesome in the workplace and just as awesome in the eyes of the man she loves.


Yes, the progressive woman knows how to take care of herself, she’s done it for a long while. But she also wants to one day feel like she can relinquish some of her power and remove the great weight that she has on her shoulders by sharing her wants, dreams, and desires with her Mr. Right.  And perhaps with entries like this one, we can spread greater awareness that will lead to true dialogue between men and women...so that the progressive woman can also have a chance at true love.

...the she-spot has spoken!

D