The Progressive Woman's Plight!

For a while, I have been pondering over an issue based on some recent conversations I have had. And of course, this rainy Sunday afternoon has made me incredibly contemplative today. So here’s a bit of context for the question I will ask you today. Recently, I have taken a look at the many women that remain single either single having never been married or single through divorce. Many, if not all of these women, are beautiful, smart, progressive, and just all around together women. In addition to being what I consider the full package, the majority of these women are overly-educated holding advanced degrees and well-paid in their careers. Now, of course there are many women that are not single with all of these attributes, but it seems like somewhat of a phenomenon in that these awesome women remain single.



Therefore, the question I want to explore today is whether a progressive woman has a harder time finding a mate...?


First, let me say that this article is in no way meant to slight other women that are not these career-minded and exceedingly educated women that I have described here, because my blog is written to uplift all women…or at least probe into the issues that all women face. But rather, this blog entry is one that just wants to delve into possible obstacles that prevent us all from finding that ideal mate.


Particularly, while many of the women that are career minded and have gone on to seek higher education because they have an ideal career that they would like to pursue, there are others of us that have gone on to pursue higher education in an effort to have increased income and to see career growth. And many women in these situations continue to pursue greater opportunities while they await the arrival of Mr. Right. Now of course, this is not 40’s or 50’s, and most women can fend for themselves (in most aspects). So, it’s not about waiting on Mr. Right to carry her away from the life that she’s living. But rather, I have the belief that there is a special person out there for everyone.


However, once a woman has reached a certain level, it becomes increasingly difficult to meet available men, for several reasons. First, men that are on the same level are often married or have chosen to remain single (LOL, the incessant player). And men that are on her level say that they want a woman with her credentials often spends much of his time trying to change who she is. And if a woman decides to date a man that may not make as much as she does or has not chosen her same path, she potentially faces other issues that deal with his feeling of inadequacy.


Truly, I am exploring the complexities of male / female interaction. I think we spend too much time tearing each other down rather than building each other up. We have been so programmed to think that men and women are from different spectrums (Mars and Venus) that we don’t take the time to understand how much we are alike and what we each need. The progressive woman, like all women, just wants to be loved and adored. She wants to feel like she can be awesome in the workplace and just as awesome in the eyes of the man she loves.


Yes, the progressive woman knows how to take care of herself, she’s done it for a long while. But she also wants to one day feel like she can relinquish some of her power and remove the great weight that she has on her shoulders by sharing her wants, dreams, and desires with her Mr. Right.  And perhaps with entries like this one, we can spread greater awareness that will lead to true dialogue between men and women...so that the progressive woman can also have a chance at true love.

...the she-spot has spoken!

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