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Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Fleeting! (Love)

I’ve been thinking for a while that there are precious times in life that need to be savored like the last piece of apple pie at Thanksgiving. I’m thinking specifically about the moments when love enters your life…the moments when love has its clutches in your heart…the moments when love is all that matters.

As people, we often walk through life not appreciating these brief fleeting moments, with the thought that love will always be there…and that love knows no end. We all know that love is often taken for granted. And I wondered why?

I’m speaking of specifically relationship type love, the love between two people. I think that overall, while love can be convenient and special at the time, people in general recognize that love requires work and commitment. Like with anything that requires work and commitment, there is often a fear that exists when embarking on the newest goal. It seems to me that people see love and fear as synonymous. And that to me is sad.

I recognize that there are costs to love, but the benefits far outweigh the costs. Loving and allowing oneself to be loved allows for growth of the spirit and growth of the heart. Love is like adding a glow to an already special person or life! Love surrounds the soul and enhances the spirit. Love allows you to be open possibilities…love can put a special spring in your step…and a song in your heart. Love is unrestrained and unconfined. Most importantly, love is deserved. Everyone deserves to share a life with someone that matters. Everyone deserves to be known in a way that facilitates true openness and trust.

So today, on this rainy Wednesday, I’m pondering love. I’m thinking totally about those fleeting moments. I’m feeling grateful for the moments that I’ve experienced. I’m holding my breath, yet remaining open to my next loving moment --- where true love is shared and not reserved. If you are lucky to have love in your life at this time, hold on to it with a grasp of strength and appreciation. If you, like me, are waiting for love…be open, unafraid, and unassuming.


This is the She-Spot…feeling deeply pensive on this day!

Later!

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Living beyond Mediocrity

It's been a minute since I actually put pen to paper or keys to keyboard to write something. It's amazing how life clutters your mind and prevents the creative process from happening. And what I have realized is that there will always be something that stops you from reaching your full potential. However, it is important that we all push through the difficult moments towards a life more fulfilling.

I reviewed my life recently, and realized, while I am doing fine and have minimal worries at this time...I feel like I am only just getting by. In essence, I have realized over the last few months that I am tired of just coasting through life...being mediocre.... I am deciding to be overcome mediocrity and work towards living life more richly and passionately.

Since I was ten, I have always wanted to be a writer. And while I have written regularly, I must admit that I haven't truly focused on my passion. There are several reasons why I haven't focused on writing, however, I think the greatest reason is that in order to be a writer...you have to be true to yourself and your writing must exhibit truth. Being a rather private person, it has always been hard for me to be truly honest in my writing. I've been working on that through blogging. I must admit...I've gotten better.

At any rate, I am rather unfulfilled at this time. And while there are many aspects of life you can't control, I can control the things that are important to me and those things that get my greatest attention. So, I am officially more committed to living a more fulfilled life.

And readers, I wish the same for you. Please follow your passions and live the life you were destined to live.

And that's straight out of the she-spot...Living life with passion....

The She-Spot

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Homeless and Suspended....

Today, I was leaving the grocery store, and at the end of the street standing by the traffic light, there was a man, a homeless man, with a sign that said "homeless, need help, will work for food."  Now, like many of us, as we pass by the homeless, we either try not to look or we scramble in our cars to dole out the last bit of change we have. 

I rolled down my window and handed the man a dollar that I had balled up with the change I had in my car.  He said "thank you!"  The light hadn't changed yet, and I hadn't rolled up my window.  He said to me, "do you know of any job openings, because what I need is a job."  I responded, "no sir, I sure don't."  I was struck by this man's eyes.  He had sincerity in his eyes. He had sadness in his eyes.  He had desperation in his eyes.  The light changed and I proceeded.

I was able to move forward with my life.  But this man's life was stagnated by his lack of employment.  As I thought about this experience, I thought about how we are often so ungrateful for the things that we have.  I was able to drive myself to the grocery store...able to buy groceries...and able to go back to my home to enjoy.  This man, this homeless man...stood...suspended in time...without a place to go...without a job...with nothing but the items he had with him.  And yet, he was grateful for the money he received and not without hope, the hope in still looking for a job. 

So today, I was reminded that I am incredibly blessed.  I was reminded to take stock of the things that matter...and to be grateful for the things that bring me joy.  I will continue to reach out to those in need...I will continue to share love with those that matter.  So like the homeless man was suspended in his current condition, I suspended all of the trivial things that weighed so heavy on my mind...suspended long enough to be thankful for all that I have...and thankful for my place in this life. 

Each of you...count your blessings!

And that's straight out of the she-spot....!

Monday, March 15, 2010

Greener Pastures!

When dealing with people and the human emotion…there are often times when one person doesn't feel appreciated or valued. And while this is not an assault on men, although I am sure many of you will take it that way, it seems like men never value the "all things" woman in their life. You know that woman that is good to them…that is there for them…the woman that has their back through it all…the woman that loves them unconditionally -- hereinafter known as the "All Things" woman.

I thought about why it is that this woman is often unappreciated and under-valued. And I refuse to believe that every guy that disregards or dismisses a woman like this is a bad guy. But rather, I am of the opinion that this type of woman is a woman that is always there. Men get comfortable with this woman. This woman represents stability. Unfortunately, out of stability complacency is born. So, in this world where people are always looking for the next best thing…the latest and the greatest, men are often looking for a grazing spot where the grass is greener. And the "all things" woman is dismissed.

And while I am not foolish to think that the "all things" woman can't be replaced. There are a lot of good women out there in the world. But unlike men, women still believe that there is a true love and a soul-mate. Men mistakenly believe that there will be many women that will float their boat. They are taught to be conquerors of many and to be conquered by none. Unfortunately for men, the heart has a mind of its own. There will come a time where the heart will demand the "all things" love.

In this instance, when the heart takes over, very often men will come back to the dismissed woman in hopes of reconciling once he realizes that she is of value and significant. And many times, if the woman has space in her life and her heart she will let him back into her world. But there are other times where the pain was so great that the woman while she may care about this man has moved on…for good or for bad. In these instances, I have seen men go through a great deal of heartache and pain…more than ever anticipated.

So the questions I have for men today are...why is it that you can't recognize a good thing when you find one? And do you think the idea of greener pastures is truly worth losing someone that matters? And just a thought, any pasture will be green with the right amount of sunlight, nourishment, love and care! But that's just a thought…straight out of The She-Spot!

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Unfortunately, Eating Crow!


Have you ever said something that you wish you could take back? You know that one thing that didn't need to be said, and isn't even what you meant, but because you were in the heat of the moment or the anguish of the minute...you said it...! It rolled out of your mouth and off of your tongue like a truck barreling down a suburban street. It was ugly; it was uncomfortable, and a bit scary.


Well, recently I said something to someone I care about a great deal. I didn't mean it...and I so wish I could take it back. And the person took it just like anyone would ...the person was annoyed, angry, and all in all pissed! The minute it came out of my mouth...I wanted to suck it back in, because the reality is what I said is not at all a depiction of what I think of this person or what this person means to me.

But as you know, you can't un-ring a bell....nor can you turn back the hands of time. So my words linger in the air like the stench of a hot summer day.

So at this point, all I can do and all I have done is apologize. I truly hope that I can rectify things. Or at least, I hope this person will realize that I am sincere and did not mean it. But I use this moment as a lesson learned...never say anything without first thinking about the consequences. And I realize that sticks and stones can break someone’s bones and words can hurt just the same!

This is the She-Spot...eating crow...and hoping she can make amends.

.....ughughugh! ------The She-Spot!

Saturday, January 9, 2010

Friday Night Love Blues --- I need to ease up on the wine!

It's less than ten days into the New Year, and I'm trying to maintain that New Year enthusiasm, at least until the end of the month :). However, I'm feeling incredibly stressed with work and life demands. And while I am sure that 2010 will offer great things to me, I am however starting off the year yearning for true love. (Singing and swaying to the tune of the Gap Band...yearning for your love...my heart is yearning for your love...)

At times in our lives, we have all had the fortune of caring deeply about someone special. However, very often we still seek space in our relationships. I am truly sitting here on a Friday night drinking a glass of vino and watching chic flicks while wishing I had someone to share my air. You know that up close and personal kind of love...the one where you feel a slight shock to your heart when the person leaves the room. I am thinking about holding someone and being enveloped in their loving hug. I am thinking about Saturday mornings in bed. I am thinking about long walks in the park...and sharing the last piece of pie. I am thinking about unconditional love.


Granted even when you are deeply in love it isn't always like this, but it is always nice to recapture the first few moments of being in love. And while I am contemplating this type of love, unfortunately I haven't had the fortune of having this type of love lately. My heart aches a bit...and I have so much love inside, it is as if I am bursting at the seams. My soul and spirit say...in due time...but my heart wants to be satisfied right now!

I think we should bag the saying the heart wants what it wants...and implement the saying..."the heart gets what it wants... ." I know that love is somewhere out there for me. I am not the most patient person, but truly this love thing or lack thereof has me unbalanced and off center. I want to bitch-slap love and get my heart in check.


I have a friend that said love comes in slow drips like a leak in a faucet versus the steady flow of a fountain. When you are fortunate enough to taste love, take each drip and let it run moistly across your lips, savor the moment with your tongue, and then let the small droplet coat the inside of your throat to begin quenching your thirst.

Ahhhh, it is Friday night...I'm home alone, and I've had one too many drinks. Love is on my mind...and my heart is up for grabs.

Happy Friday everyone...live, laugh, and embrace love!


And that's straight out of the she-spot!!!
 
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