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Monday, March 15, 2010

Greener Pastures!

When dealing with people and the human emotion…there are often times when one person doesn't feel appreciated or valued. And while this is not an assault on men, although I am sure many of you will take it that way, it seems like men never value the "all things" woman in their life. You know that woman that is good to them…that is there for them…the woman that has their back through it all…the woman that loves them unconditionally -- hereinafter known as the "All Things" woman.

I thought about why it is that this woman is often unappreciated and under-valued. And I refuse to believe that every guy that disregards or dismisses a woman like this is a bad guy. But rather, I am of the opinion that this type of woman is a woman that is always there. Men get comfortable with this woman. This woman represents stability. Unfortunately, out of stability complacency is born. So, in this world where people are always looking for the next best thing…the latest and the greatest, men are often looking for a grazing spot where the grass is greener. And the "all things" woman is dismissed.

And while I am not foolish to think that the "all things" woman can't be replaced. There are a lot of good women out there in the world. But unlike men, women still believe that there is a true love and a soul-mate. Men mistakenly believe that there will be many women that will float their boat. They are taught to be conquerors of many and to be conquered by none. Unfortunately for men, the heart has a mind of its own. There will come a time where the heart will demand the "all things" love.

In this instance, when the heart takes over, very often men will come back to the dismissed woman in hopes of reconciling once he realizes that she is of value and significant. And many times, if the woman has space in her life and her heart she will let him back into her world. But there are other times where the pain was so great that the woman while she may care about this man has moved on…for good or for bad. In these instances, I have seen men go through a great deal of heartache and pain…more than ever anticipated.

So the questions I have for men today are...why is it that you can't recognize a good thing when you find one? And do you think the idea of greener pastures is truly worth losing someone that matters? And just a thought, any pasture will be green with the right amount of sunlight, nourishment, love and care! But that's just a thought…straight out of The She-Spot!