Life's Chaos 1 - Don't we date any more!

I start this blog with asking the question...do people even date any more?  It seems to me that everyone, especially men, have been comfortable with as soon as they meet you...getting all up in your space...without what my parents used to call the courtship.  Whatever happened to the days of old, where a man would take you out to a nice movie or restaurant and then drop you off at the front door, all the while contemplating whether he would make the first move for a kiss? These days, the minute you meet a guy...you are having to defend your personal space from having him move right on in.

I won't, however, blame this blog totally on the men we date...LOL.  Why is it that women feel comfortable having sex with men that they just met?  Don't get me wrong, this is definitely not a judgment call...but how did we get to the point that we find ourselves in bed with a stranger?  No, he may not be a stranger in the sense that we have no clue who this guy is but rather a stranger in the sense that we probably have hung out with him a couple of times...and maybe talked to him on the phone a couple of times..., yet he is still a stranger.  And then often we find ourselves disappointed or even dejected over the event.  Not to mention, sex with a stranger that isn't enjoyable sex is enough to make you want to slit your wrist.  But I digress!

I guess the point of this blog is to say, we all need to slow things down these days.  In the age of technology and easy access, we just don't want to provide easy access to ourselves, our body, our mind...our soul.  We need to learn to proceed with caution...keeping in mind, "everything that glitters ain't gold."  Never has a truer statement been said.  

Anyway...I think its time we take life slow.  And perhaps when something noteworthy comes a long...we won't miss it with the hustle and bustle of life's chaos.

"Birthday Blues for the Single Girl"

Hey world....

It's the eve of my birthday and I am looking forward to having dinner with friends. As I am getting ready for dinner, I am sitting here thinking about what this next year will mean...for the single girl who is still looking for love....hmmmm, one wonders. So while I have had the fortunate opportunity to share this weekend with those that I love, I find myself in the midst of reflection as I wonder...what's next?

Birthdays for the single girl who is in her thirties are what many would consider an extremely stressful time. Because while you have very special friends and family that value you and want to share in your day, they aren't quite as committed as you would have them be. For a person like me, birthdays are special times. I usually go out of my way to make others feel loved and valued. Yet, I went into this birthday weekend holding my breath and wishing it was over, because I knew that the investment in my day would be little to none.

So you may wonder why birthdays for the single girl are so stressful, well the time is spent wondering will you be alone on your birthday...will the people you care about actually show up...will the men you are seeing even give you a call (considering that most married men can't even remember their wives birthdays), and finally will this birthday be worthwhile? And after all of that, if the birthday isn't that great, what the heck does that say about the year to come?

Well, to my surprise, my birthday has been fine. My friends actually did show up, some of the guys actually did call...and I was made to feel special by those that love me. But for those of you that know some single woman who is nearing a birthday, keep this in mind and make it her best!

And that's straight out of the She-Spot!

The Fun in Facebook

Over the last few months, I have gotten into the newest 30 something phenomena --- FaceBook. It has been a great way to get back in touch with old friends and to constantly be updated on the haps of your closest friends. The best thing however about facebook is that you feel so in the minds of those you know...from the status updates to the recent pics...to the old pics...or just based on the applications that everyone uploads.

Just think, when is the last time that 100 people wished you a Happy Birthday? How great is that...that you everyone can easily reach out and touch you.

Facebook, although it can be a major distraction in your daily life, has been as strong a connection as the cell phone. Interestingly, high school students and twenty-somethings have been using facebook for a while now. It has only recently touched the thirty-something to forty-something crowd. What a way to close the generation gap...through communication.

My hats off to facebook...as I am a total fan.

Liar, Liar...Pants on Fire!

It's Sunday night, and I am contemplating what the week will have in store. As I think about tomorrow, work, the gym and all the many things that clutter my mind, I realize I am also feeling frustrated about a recent incident. Someone close to me told me, what I consider to be, a sizable lie. The lie goes to the overall credibility of the person.

So I ask the question, is it possible to get past a lie that calls question to the very core of who you are? I would like to think that I am extremely open-minded (which I am about most things) and I am extremely forgiving. The truth of the matter is that it does not matter whether the lie is forgiven, there is always a nagging thought in the back of your mind that waits for the next lie.

Is it unfair for me to base my judgment of this individual on this one lie? I have decided to have the hard conversation. And for those of you that know me, you know that I hate confrontation. I believe, however, if I confront this issue head-on, then perhaps I can get past the lie...at least I hope so.

For now, I am forever reminded of the childhood saying...liar, liar...pants on fire! At this moment, I am still a bit mad... .