Well readers as we approach another New Year, I am sure many of you are planning your New Year's resolutions. You know the ones that include losing weight, getting more active, working out, eating better, going to church more, getting more involved in community outreach, getting more in touch with friends and family,....and just overall becoming a better you. I truly do wish everyone good luck with their resolutions this year. I have always had and probably will continue to have my share of resolutions in 2010 and beyond. The driving desire to be a better person rings loud and clear as the clock strikes 12 at the beginning of the year. As we shout 10-9-8-7-6-5-4-3-2-1, ...Happy New Year.... Be a Better Me, should all be proclaimed in the same sentence.
At any rate, again, I am not challenging anyone for their New Year's Resolutions...rather....the single girl in the New Year is hoping to see movement in her life. Can I resolve to find a soul-mate, can I resolve to date more, and can I resolve to find true love...? To me resolutions always lack some truth, because they are often surface requests for what we truly desire. Lose weight --- improve my self-image; Work out --- stop being lazy and get some discipline; Eat better --- a statement that is riddled with guilt from all the crap that we ate over the holidays; Go to Church More ---- Stop being a some time Christian (*some times I'm working on my relationship with God...and some times I'm not); Get more involved in community outreach --- again riddled with guilt regarding all the selfish acts that have been done this past year. This year, I am truly digging into my soul to outline my New Year's resolutions:
1) Get off the couch, get in the gym, and stop crying about losing weight
2) Make more money --- i.e., stop spending everything I have on frivolous items I don't need
3) Eat better - HA, stop eating all together --- stop self medicating with food
4) Cut back on alcohol - again stop self medicating with alcohol, and get it together
5) Be a more faithful person -- be prayerful in the good and bad times...and just because it’s cold outside, it doesn't exempt me from going to church
6) I resolve to find a mate --- i.e., stop dealing with these dead-end and nowhere relationships and open your heart and soul for what's truly right
7) Appreciate my blessings, big and small. Stop being a selfish, self-centered, and egotistical individual….recognize my higher purpose…
8) Be a better me --- Note: if you have to pep-talk yourself into being a better you then you probably already know you aren't the best you ...that you can be!
Overall, the single girl desires to see movement in her life. The single girl of the she-spot feels totally stagnant right now. It's time to take the reigns of my life and gain control of my life, my decisions, my failures, and my consequences.
So this year as you and I put pen to paper to create your resolutions for 2010, let’s all aim to be wiser and more true to ourselves. Let’s recognize our decisions that have led our lives in the direction it’s going. Resolve to be better at being you…resolve to be more introspective and reflective. Resolve to recognize our individual faults… .
Happy New Year everyone....wishing you much love and peace during this season...and much success on attaining your goals for 2010.
---And that's straight out of the she-spot!!!
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It's seven days until Christmas...and I'm feeling excited about spending time with family and friends. I must admit,...I just love this time of year. From Thanksgiving to New Years...I am truly in spirit. I love the smell of pine and cinnamon that lingers in the air. To me, the atmosphere feels like I'm surrounded by a big hug! (I know, it's corny right...but true!)
Now on the flip-side, people seem stressed beyond belief.
The malls are flooded with weary shoppers looking for the best deal...all the while fighting over the size they need with the next weary shopper that has a better reach and more aggressive elbowing tactics! (Kobe and Lebron look out...your competition is in the nearest mall!)
The parking lot is nothing short of mayhem. Picture this: Car #1 is on one end....Car #2 is on the other end...both are racing for the same spot...both are playing chicken...who loses...who loses....the poor elderly lady with her shopping cart that has to leap out of the way to avoid being sandwiched by a head-on crash! Come on people, is anything that serious? SMH and wondering why people make Target's parking lot their own personal Speedway.
As "Santa" prepares to give the kids everything their heart desires...the Christmas lists keep growing and growing.... Dear Santa: I would like (this long a$$ list of things that I can't even spell!) I mean really, who needs a Wii, an Ipod, a laptop, a PS (whatever the latest is)...a plasma TV...a new cell phone...and much more... I ask, when is this "fortunate" child going to have time to sit down and do some homework? And parents, if your child is averaging D's in class...it's probably a sign that all they need for Christmas is a book and a tutor! But hey...that's just me!
Tis the season for giving. So I wonder, how is it that people leave the stores with two carts...or fifteen bags, but don't have a quarter to put in the Salvation Army collection can? Note: You saw Santa or the helper outside when you went in the store. So, did you not think to save a few cents to donate to those less fortunate...? Does that mean you went in and spent every dime...all in the name of Christmas gifts?
Okay, lastly....something to keep in mind...just because it looks nice to you doesn't mean it looks nice to others. Just because you can put a thousand green lights on the outside of your house doesn't mean that your neighbors want to look at the green monstrosity. For those of you that have those large inflatables that only stay inflated for about thirty minutes...remember less is more! And making your child happy...has your yard looking a mess!
So...Tis the Season ...to be a basketball player...a race-car driver....greedy little kid, ....a tutor in need of a job...nickel-ing and dime-ing / scrooge...and a decoration fashionista (NOT!). Let's get back to what is important...love, joy, celebration, and giving....! Now is the time to reevaluate your holiday disposition.
Happy Holidays! May the joys of the season fill your heart and home.
And that's straight out of The She-Spot!
Is it just me...or has the dating scene gotten to be very lame? The single girl (i.e., me) tries to keep an open mind and a positive attitude...but it becomes very difficult when she keeps running head on into insanity. Ever go toe to toe with insanity....let's just say, it's a losing battle!
At any rate, I am at the point that I want to carry around my personal add in at least a 11 X 17 size... that says - Single Girl Seeking the following:
Honest guy...unmarried guy and/or unattached guy (*Definition: there is no one that thinks she's attached) ...and wait also (separated doesn't count). Must be well-kept (bathes regularly,...irons his clothes...and has an eye for style...(Note: he doesn't have to be fashion forward, but wearing 1980's fashions isn't quite as attractive on guys)... have steady job (*a steady job does not include working on getting your life together---what the hell does that mean!)...must have a car...MUST have a car that runs...not a car parked in your yard, or one that has been repo-ed...must know the difference between being confident and cocky...must be able to hold a conversation outside of text messages - LOL, LMAO, OMG and ROTFL do not count as conversation. A girl likes to get a phone call every now and then... GEEZ! And if he communicates via text messages ...NO SPELLING ERRORS! No smokers! Must have own space, no living with parents...and definitely don't think just because we went out on one date that you can move in with me! (Leave your bag and your items at home...and Hell NO...you can not have a key to my house!) Once these initial prerequisites have been met...he must be nice, considerate, down to earth, compassionate and passionate! And as my mom used to say..."can he have a bit of damn common-sense!" Only qualified and serious applicants need apply! Review of applications will begin immediately....
But maybe it's just me...maybe you haven't run into these guys...if not, you're lucky! And I know some of you may say, I'm picky...but I don't think anything on this list should not be expected...most of it is just basic common courtesy and chivalry. Whatever happened to being courted...? Hmmm....Single Girl Seeking Relief from Dating Chaos!
And that is straight out of The She-Spot!
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