So Many Choices and Decisions -- Becoming an Agent of Change

It's been such a long time since I've taken the time to post.  As with anything, life gets in the way...or in the words of the commercial, "life comes at you fast."  At any rate, it has been a crazy few months...and I still am trying to figure out this life thing! 

Yet, I realize that life is mostly choices followed by decisions---good or bad.  Like many others I'm sure, I spend so much time thinking about what life has to hold for me...when in actuality, I'm just considering my choices.  Also, I've spent a great deal of time not making the best decisions or reveling in inactivity and not making a decision at all.  Life is so short, unpredictable, and undetermined.  At this point, as I'm getting older, I spend a great deal of time thinking about things I could have done differently, things I should do differently, and things I want to change.  I recognize today though that I want to make a change in my life that allows me to have the greatest impact for the the greatest good.  I would like to be an agent for change.

I recently met and have become great friends with someone who seems to understand the importance of life.  Life for him is making a contribution to society around us.  He's a person that immerses himself in the business of making the lives of others better.  His commitment to the community forced me to think  back to when I was younger and how I was much more involved in my community.  For the last few years, I would not say that I have been selfish...but I've been so consumed in the lives of the immediate people around me that I have not had anything to give to the community at large

I've been too complacent for far too long.  There are so many ways to effect change...so many people in need...so many ways to help others.  So when I think about life at this time, I know that I want a life that is more meaningful.  I choose to be the change I want to see in the world.

This is the she-spot...committing herself to good choices and becoming an agent of change!

She-Spot

Fleeting! (Love)

I’ve been thinking for a while that there are precious times in life that need to be savored like the last piece of apple pie at Thanksgiving. I’m thinking specifically about the moments when love enters your life…the moments when love has its clutches in your heart…the moments when love is all that matters.

As people, we often walk through life not appreciating these brief fleeting moments, with the thought that love will always be there…and that love knows no end. We all know that love is often taken for granted. And I wondered why?

I’m speaking of specifically relationship type love, the love between two people. I think that overall, while love can be convenient and special at the time, people in general recognize that love requires work and commitment. Like with anything that requires work and commitment, there is often a fear that exists when embarking on the newest goal. It seems to me that people see love and fear as synonymous. And that to me is sad.

I recognize that there are costs to love, but the benefits far outweigh the costs. Loving and allowing oneself to be loved allows for growth of the spirit and growth of the heart. Love is like adding a glow to an already special person or life! Love surrounds the soul and enhances the spirit. Love allows you to be open possibilities…love can put a special spring in your step…and a song in your heart. Love is unrestrained and unconfined. Most importantly, love is deserved. Everyone deserves to share a life with someone that matters. Everyone deserves to be known in a way that facilitates true openness and trust.

So today, on this rainy Wednesday, I’m pondering love. I’m thinking totally about those fleeting moments. I’m feeling grateful for the moments that I’ve experienced. I’m holding my breath, yet remaining open to my next loving moment --- where true love is shared and not reserved. If you are lucky to have love in your life at this time, hold on to it with a grasp of strength and appreciation. If you, like me, are waiting for love…be open, unafraid, and unassuming.


This is the She-Spot…feeling deeply pensive on this day!

Later!

Living beyond Mediocrity

It's been a minute since I actually put pen to paper or keys to keyboard to write something. It's amazing how life clutters your mind and prevents the creative process from happening. And what I have realized is that there will always be something that stops you from reaching your full potential. However, it is important that we all push through the difficult moments towards a life more fulfilling.

I reviewed my life recently, and realized, while I am doing fine and have minimal worries at this time...I feel like I am only just getting by. In essence, I have realized over the last few months that I am tired of just coasting through life...being mediocre.... I am deciding to be overcome mediocrity and work towards living life more richly and passionately.

Since I was ten, I have always wanted to be a writer. And while I have written regularly, I must admit that I haven't truly focused on my passion. There are several reasons why I haven't focused on writing, however, I think the greatest reason is that in order to be a writer...you have to be true to yourself and your writing must exhibit truth. Being a rather private person, it has always been hard for me to be truly honest in my writing. I've been working on that through blogging. I must admit...I've gotten better.

At any rate, I am rather unfulfilled at this time. And while there are many aspects of life you can't control, I can control the things that are important to me and those things that get my greatest attention. So, I am officially more committed to living a more fulfilled life.

And readers, I wish the same for you. Please follow your passions and live the life you were destined to live.

And that's straight out of the she-spot...Living life with passion....

The She-Spot

Homeless and Suspended....

Today, I was leaving the grocery store, and at the end of the street standing by the traffic light, there was a man, a homeless man, with a sign that said "homeless, need help, will work for food."  Now, like many of us, as we pass by the homeless, we either try not to look or we scramble in our cars to dole out the last bit of change we have. 

I rolled down my window and handed the man a dollar that I had balled up with the change I had in my car.  He said "thank you!"  The light hadn't changed yet, and I hadn't rolled up my window.  He said to me, "do you know of any job openings, because what I need is a job."  I responded, "no sir, I sure don't."  I was struck by this man's eyes.  He had sincerity in his eyes. He had sadness in his eyes.  He had desperation in his eyes.  The light changed and I proceeded.

I was able to move forward with my life.  But this man's life was stagnated by his lack of employment.  As I thought about this experience, I thought about how we are often so ungrateful for the things that we have.  I was able to drive myself to the grocery store...able to buy groceries...and able to go back to my home to enjoy.  This man, this homeless man...stood...suspended in time...without a place to go...without a job...with nothing but the items he had with him.  And yet, he was grateful for the money he received and not without hope, the hope in still looking for a job. 

So today, I was reminded that I am incredibly blessed.  I was reminded to take stock of the things that matter...and to be grateful for the things that bring me joy.  I will continue to reach out to those in need...I will continue to share love with those that matter.  So like the homeless man was suspended in his current condition, I suspended all of the trivial things that weighed so heavy on my mind...suspended long enough to be thankful for all that I have...and thankful for my place in this life. 

Each of you...count your blessings!

And that's straight out of the she-spot....!