Back to Basics

It has been an incredibly long time since I have sat down to blog.  All I can say is life gets in the way. However, life continues to teach me that unless I'm feeding my passion, I will always continue to feel somewhat unfulfilled.  So, what is my passion?  Writing has always been my passion..my writing has served to calm the white noise that most often clouds my thoughts.  So once again, I pick up pen and paper...laptop and tablet... and a glass of wine to connect to my inner soul and find a sense of both purpose and peace. For me, I'm going back to basics!

Since we have gotten that out of the way, with the onset of the New Year, and rush to complete our 2015 resolutions, I figured that this was the ideal time to focus on being true to myself.  And of course, I felt inclined to share this reminder with all of you.  

Often as women, and for my male followers as men too, we get lost in the day to day and life comes at you fast.  It is so easy to become completely immersed in love, families, children, work, and all of daily minutia.  With this complete immersion, we often realize that we are not living our best lives or working towards achieving our passions and dreams.  It's as if so many of us are constantly stuck on 50%, we are only 50% of who we are truly destined to be. With our dial stuck on half of who we are meant to be, we most often feel unfulfilled and go through life on cruise control with little or no excitement.  

Just as I have allowed more than a year pass since my last blog, I'm sure many of you have lost your way and neglected the passionate side of who you are.  While there is honor in being self-less...there is often misery in never listening to your internal soul.  As we cruise into 2015, I am wrestling with life questions like who am I, what will be my legacy, and what is happiness for me?  Of course the answers to my questions have not been answered in this first couple of days of 2015, but I have made a commitment this year to focus on my talents, creating happiness, and living life with full and fervent passion.  I must say that I have already gotten a bit distracted with work challenges and a to-do list that is a mile long.  However, I remain committed to listening to the whispering of my soul over this next year.  I hope that you will join me in a quest to find your own happiness.  I challenge each of you (myself included) to tap into the 50% of you that remains uncultivated and untapped.  

My pilgrimage towards happiness begins with this blog...I hope that each of you will take your first step towards complete fulfillment and contentment.  

Happy New Year to each of you

Love, Peace, & Passion....

---The She-Spot!!

Happy New Year! Live Passionately...

2010 --- It’s the New Year again!

Well readers as we approach another New Year, I am sure many of you are planning your New Year's resolutions. You know the ones that include losing weight, getting more active, working out, eating better, going to church more, getting more involved in community outreach, getting more in touch with friends and family,....and just overall becoming a better you. I truly do wish everyone good luck with their resolutions this year. I have always had and probably will continue to have my share of resolutions in 2010 and beyond. The driving desire to be a better person rings loud and clear as the clock strikes 12 at the beginning of the year. As we shout 10-9-8-7-6-5-4-3-2-1, ...Happy New Year.... Be a Better Me, should all be proclaimed in the same sentence.

At any rate, again, I am not challenging anyone for their New Year's Resolutions...rather....the single girl in the New Year is hoping to see movement in her life. Can I resolve to find a soul-mate, can I resolve to date more, and can I resolve to find true love...? To me resolutions always lack some truth, because they are often surface requests for what we truly desire. Lose weight --- improve my self-image; Work out --- stop being lazy and get some discipline; Eat better --- a statement that is riddled with guilt from all the crap that we ate over the holidays; Go to Church More ---- Stop being a some time Christian (*some times I'm working on my relationship with God...and some times I'm not); Get more involved in community outreach --- again riddled with guilt regarding all the selfish acts that have been done this past year. This year, I am truly digging into my soul to outline my New Year's resolutions:

1) Get off the couch, get in the gym, and stop crying about losing weight
2) Make more money --- i.e., stop spending everything I have on frivolous items I don't need
3) Eat better - HA, stop eating all together --- stop self medicating with food
4) Cut back on alcohol - again stop self medicating with alcohol, and get it together
5) Be a more faithful person -- be prayerful in the good and bad times...and just because it’s cold outside, it doesn't exempt me from going to church
6) I resolve to find a mate --- i.e., stop dealing with these dead-end and nowhere relationships and open your heart and soul for what's truly right
7) Appreciate my blessings, big and small. Stop being a selfish, self-centered, and egotistical individual….recognize my higher purpose…
8) Be a better me --- Note: if you have to pep-talk yourself into being a better you then you probably already know you aren't the best you ...that you can be!

Overall, the single girl desires to see movement in her life. The single girl of the she-spot feels totally stagnant right now. It's time to take the reigns of my life and gain control of my life, my decisions, my failures, and my consequences.

So this year as you and I put pen to paper to create your resolutions for 2010, let’s all aim to be wiser and more true to ourselves. Let’s recognize our decisions that have led our lives in the direction it’s going. Resolve to be better at being you…resolve to be more introspective and reflective. Resolve to recognize our individual faults… .

Happy New Year everyone....wishing you much love and peace during this season...and much success on attaining your goals for 2010.

---And that's straight out of the she-spot!!!

D